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Sunday, February 6, 2011
gaining respect
Gaining Respect
“First impression may not the lasting impression but it does last at least unto the next meeting... For example, bad breath gives the impression that one is dirty. Poor eye contact gives an impression that one is not interested. Crooked teeth give the impression that the fellow is dunderhead.
"Cleanliness and neatness are the primary building blocks to respect in most societies." -- L. Ron Hubbard
To Succeed, One Needs Respect
Personal impressions are important in this society. A bad impression can hurt your chances of success. People may dislike being around you. You make them uncomfortable. They distrust you somehow.
A good personal impression makes your job easier. It opens the door to good relationships. It gives you a chance to show your skills and value.
Job applicants with a good personal image have a significant advantage over those with a poor image. Sales people often win or lose because of their image. Getting a date or finding a spouse depends a great deal on your image.
To succeed in business, financial or public relations activities, you must establish as much respect as possible. You have no excuse for not being clean and neat.
A good personal image helps make people listen to you, believe in you and like being with you. It shows you are a professional.
Everyone can improve personal image. It's an easy, but important step on your road to success.
25 Ways to Improve Image
1. Do not smell. Use an effective unscented deodorant. Avoid sharp scented perfume and cologne.
2. Ensure your clothing fits well, is clean and not stained. Dress professionally; slightly better than those around you. Wear nothing extraordinary e.g.: psychedelic ties, hats, flashy jewelry and so on.
3. As a female, avoid heavy cosmetics or inappropriate clothing. As a male, keep your hair short and trimmed; same with facial hair.
4. Ensure your fingernails are clean, smooth and well shaped.
5. Pluck hair that sticks out of your ears or nose, between eyebrows, out of moles or other odd places.
6. Look healthy: no red eyes, sniffles or coughing.
7. Brush your teeth frequently. Ensure you have clean-smelling breath.
8. Keep your hair clean and natural-looking.
9. Keep your tattoos and piercing covered up.
10. Stand when first meeting someone, no matter who they are.
11. Walk with good posture; stand tall, lift your chin.
12. Sit straight.
13. Make good eye contact while listening and talking.
14. Automatically smile at everyone you see.
15. Shake hands or pat the shoulder of each person you meet or greet.
16. Use a dry, warm hand for handshaking.
17. Allow a comfortable amount of space between you and others.
18. Laugh easily; it makes people relax and makes your face glow.
19. Watch your humor. Avoid jokes about race, disability, gender and so on. Tell jokes about yourself or share funny stories that anyone would enjoy.
20. Appear relaxed, yet energized.
21. Use good manners. Say "please," "thank you," and "excuse me" at all times to everyone regardless of whom you think they are. Or Jazak Allah, yerhamakullah, Alhamdo lillah, Subhanallah as the occasion demands
22. Use good language. Bad/good examples: "c'mere/come here," "ain't/isn't," "yeah/yes," "nah/no."
23. Acknowledge everyone, ignore no one.
24. Say "goodbye" to everyone as you or they leave.
25. Be proud and elegant
26. Encourage your children at home and subordinates at work.
27. Don’t be a cynic
May Allah bless you.
GulzSudhan history
Sudhans are one of the major tribes from the districts of Poonch, Sudhanoti, Bagh and Kolti in Kashmir.
Lt. Col. J.M. Wikeley in his book Punjabi Musalmans wrote, "The Sudhans have pride of race and look on themselves as superior to any of the other tribes of Poonch Kashmir". "Sudhuns are mainly settled in the region from Kotli to Sudhan Gali of present Azad Jammu & Kashmir and having the population of 500,000”[1]. Apart from Indian Kashmir Sudhans are also settled in different cities of Pakistan mainly in Rawalpindi, Islamabad, Kahuta, Murree and Kotli Sattian.
Rawalakot, in the Poonch District and Pallandri, in the Sudhanoti Districts of Azad Kashmir are major Sudhan strongholds. Internationally Sudhans are settled all over the world and have large communities in the United States , Canada and the United Kingdom Australia , Denmark , Norway , Germany and Belgium South Africa
Major G. Carmichael Smyth in his book A History of the Reigning Family of Lahore states: "About the year 1832, several independent hill-tribes inhabiting the north western regions of the Punjaub [Punjab] were reduced into subjection to the Lahore state. These were the Doondh, Soodhun (Sudhan), Suthee, Hoteels(Muhgals) and Murdiall(Mughals) tribes. The Doondh tribe lived chiefly on the banks of the Jhelum...was in number about fifty or sixty thousand... The Soodhun tribe inhabited a large tract on the eastern bank of the same river opposite the country of the Doondhs, and numbered about forty thousand souls."
In Punjabi Musalmans by Lt. Col. J.M. Wikeley: "Male population.— 25,300. (Census 1838). The Sudhanoti tahsil of Poonch is the home of the Sudhans, but they spread also into the Havali, Bagh and Kotli tehsils and a few even are to be met with across the Jhelum in the Kahuta tahsil of Rawalpindi
Theories of origins
The history of the Sudhans is replete with conflicting controversies. Whether they came from Ghazni or Kandhar or their ancestor converted to Islam may never be resolved, but it is a fact that they are a distinct tribe whose history demands detailed research.
Afghan Ancesty or Rajput Ancestry:'
According to Major (Retd) Tilla Mohammad, now deceased, a political leader in Peshawar
"Sudhans had immigrated to Azad Kashmir from Ghazni and Kandahar, Afghanistan, during the 14th century."
Major (Retd) Tilla Muhammad was himself from Rehara, Kashmir and his ancestors had migrated to Peshawar from Kashmir .
Some Sudhans adopted the name Sadozai, after the publication of the articles by Major (Retd) Tila Muhammad.
Some members of the Sudhan tribe claim that the Sudhan tribe are descendendts from Afghan Pathan tribes; this may just be due to the fact that Ahmed Shah Durrani's empire consisted of what is now known as Kashmir and the Sudhans just a by-product of the subsequent invasions. However none of this been ascertained by historical or genealogical proof. The only evidence given to this theory is through oral traditions.[2][3]
Brahmin ancestry: According to Col.
“ | By origin the Mohyals are certainly Saraswat and still take wives from that group in Gujarat, while in Rawalpindi the five superior sections (Sudhan, Sikhan, Bhaklal, Bhog and Kali) of the Bunjahi Sarsuts used to give daughters Bhimwal(Bhibhal) Mohyal Sarsuts and occasionally to other Mohyal sections.[5] | ” |
The name Sudhan also occurs in the Mahabharata mythology, as a descendant of the vedic rishi Angiras, this is also further corroborated by the reference above, although there is no reference of the tribe itself claiming descent from the mentioned Angiras's son Sudhan. Also in the Gazetteer of Rawalpindi Kashmir
Castes and Tribes of Poonch by Muhammad Din Folk “Sudhan is shown as one of the 12 communities in Hazara during the Vedic age. Sodhan is described as a Rajput tribe. Sud race is settled in East Punjab ”.
Reigning Family of Lahore by Major G. Carmichael Smyth “Sud were originally called suwdik, one of the nomadic tribes who settled in Iran South Punjab ) fought battle with Alexander the Great and gave Alexander a tough time in Sogdian (Summarkand)”.
The Sudhan Revolt (The News 19 October 1997.) By Sardar M. Saleem Khan. "Sudhan, and important and high caste of Chihalis-Rajputs (Aryans)".
Gazetteer of Kashmir & Ladakh (1890) "Lehr Muni (ancestor of Sudhan) son of Bawa Muna (Chief of Katas Tirath) migrated from Katas to Poonch in 11th century. One of his descendants Sudh Sain/Pal is the patriarch of Sudhan. Sudhan Chander Bansi dynasty ruled from the capital of Sudhnuti. Sudhan are Muslims as well as Hindus".
DNA Research: A research project comprising DNA lineage study has been commenced to determine the ancestry of the Sudhans.
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