gaining respect

  Gaining Respect

“First impression may not the lasting impression but it does last at least unto the next meeting... For example, bad breath gives the impression that one is dirty. Poor eye contact gives an impression that one is not interested. Crooked teeth give the impression that the fellow is dunderhead.

"Cleanliness and neatness are the primary building blocks to respect in most societies." -- L. Ron Hubbard

To Succeed, One Needs Respect

Personal impressions are important in this society. A bad impression can hurt your chances of success. People may dislike being around you. You make them uncomfortable. They distrust you somehow.

A good personal impression makes your job easier. It opens the door to good relationships. It gives you a chance to show your skills and value.

Job applicants with a good personal image have a significant advantage over those with a poor image. Sales people often win or lose because of their image. Getting a date or finding a spouse depends a great deal on your image.

To succeed in business, financial or public relations activities, you must establish as much respect as possible. You have no excuse for not being clean and neat.

A good personal image helps make people listen to you, believe in you and like being with you. It shows you are a professional.

Everyone can improve personal image. It's an easy, but important step on your road to success.

25 Ways to Improve Image

1. Do not smell. Use an effective unscented deodorant. Avoid sharp scented perfume and cologne.

2. Ensure your clothing fits well, is clean and not stained. Dress professionally; slightly better than those around you. Wear nothing extraordinary e.g.: psychedelic ties, hats, flashy jewelry and so on.

3. As a female, avoid heavy cosmetics or inappropriate clothing. As a male, keep your hair short and trimmed; same with facial hair.

4. Ensure your fingernails are clean, smooth and well shaped.

5. Pluck hair that sticks out of your ears or nose, between eyebrows, out of moles or other odd places.

6. Look healthy: no red eyes, sniffles or coughing.

7. Brush your teeth frequently. Ensure you have clean-smelling breath.

8. Keep your hair clean and natural-looking.

9. Keep your tattoos and piercing covered up.

10. Stand when first meeting someone, no matter who they are.

11. Walk with good posture; stand tall, lift your chin.

12. Sit straight.

13. Make good eye contact while listening and talking.

14. Automatically smile at everyone you see.

15. Shake hands or pat the shoulder of each person you meet or greet.

16. Use a dry, warm hand for handshaking.

17. Allow a comfortable amount of space between you and others.

18. Laugh easily; it makes people relax and makes your face glow.

19. Watch your humor. Avoid jokes about race, disability, gender and so on. Tell jokes about yourself or share funny stories that anyone would enjoy.

20. Appear relaxed, yet energized.

21. Use good manners. Say "please," "thank you," and "excuse me" at all times to everyone regardless of whom you think they are. Or Jazak Allah, yerhamakullah, Alhamdo lillah, Subhanallah as the occasion demands

22. Use good language. Bad/good examples: "c'mere/come here," "ain't/isn't," "yeah/yes," "nah/no."

23. Acknowledge everyone, ignore no one.

24. Say "goodbye" to everyone as you or they leave.

25. Be proud and elegant

26. Encourage your children at home and subordinates at work.

27. Don’t be a cynic

May Allah bless you.

Gulz